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I have multiple places where I am an online presence, sometimes under different names and for different purposes.

This one rule applies to all of them.  Perhaps it's less relevant on LiveJournal, where "sharing" or "reposting" or "reblogging" or "retweeting" isn't really a thing we do so much.  It's definitely relevant to Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr, though, and I spend a good bit of time in all of those places.

I do not reblog on demand.

Ever.

No, not even for you.

No, not even for that cause.


"Can I just ask everyone to do me this one favor...?"

No.  No, you can't.

"I can't believe this doesn't have more notes!"

Believe it, because you're not getting one from me.

"Come on, all you [privileged in a relevant way] people who say you're on the side of [marginalized in a relevant way] people!"

NOPE.

"I never do this, really, but this one time it's just SO important..."

I don't care if you're literally my best friend and you literally believe this is life-saving.  NOPE.  Not even once.

See, here's the thing.  If I break this rule, ever, even once, then any time I happen to scroll by something or just not see something because guess what, I'm actually not on line all the time...?  Then I'm the bad guy who cares more about the thing I happened to see and repost than the thing I didn't happen to see, even if the opposite is actually true.

The other thing is that this is just a shitty, shitty guilt trip to put on people.  "Don't you CARE?!  Well, PROVE IT!"

No.  If you know me, you have some idea of what it is that I care about.

If you want to get to know me, this is not the way to do it.

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dee_aar2
Feb. 12th, 2017 10:45 am (UTC)
I get where this comes from. Social Media and its invasion into our lives is at its peak now ... and all the sharing , reposting etc ... it really can be so tiring.
Hold onto that decision on reblogging ... it makes the www a little less crazier.
cheshire23
Feb. 16th, 2017 10:08 pm (UTC)
It really does. Thanks for the comment. :)
halfshellvenus
Feb. 13th, 2017 03:40 am (UTC)
Then I'm the bad guy who cares more about the thing I happened to see and repost than the thing I didn't happen to see, even if the opposite is actually true.

A fair point-- that would be me, for sure, the sporadically present person who doesn't notice every little thing. Especially on Facebook, where I log in 1 or 2 times a year.

Reposting, etc... it's kind of demanding. Before the Internet, this would have been, "Why won't you put up a soapbox in front of the grocery store and plead my cause to the masses?" Which... ulp.
cheshire23
Feb. 16th, 2017 10:08 pm (UTC)
Why won't you put up a soapbox in front of the grocery store and plead my cause to the masses?" Which... ulp.

That's a great way of looking at it, thanks!
sinnamongirl
Feb. 13th, 2017 08:04 am (UTC)
""Come on, all you [privileged in a relevant way] people who say you're on the side of [marginalized in a relevant way] people!""

Ha, yes. This one *especially.* And even more ESPECIALLY because what I show on, say, Facebook, isn't what I show on LJ or Twitter or somewhere else. I'll do some things voluntarily; my FB is actually littered with stuff I care about and have reposted from elsewhere, but as soon as there's a demand, especially a bitter, vaguely self-righteous "you don't care enough and now have to prove yourself to me" post, I'm done and out.
cheshire23
Feb. 16th, 2017 10:09 pm (UTC)
Exactly so.

Great icon, BTW!
murielle
Feb. 15th, 2017 01:49 am (UTC)
I totally get it! Great use of the prompt. Kudos!
cheshire23
Feb. 17th, 2017 12:33 am (UTC)
Thank you!
rayaso
Feb. 15th, 2017 03:24 pm (UTC)
I love the way you set out your principles -- the dialog form worked very well, and it was humorous to boot. Good ideas plus a bonus fun read!
cheshire23
Feb. 17th, 2017 01:33 am (UTC)
Thank you!
mamas_minion
Feb. 16th, 2017 02:50 am (UTC)
I can understand that by reposting something you maybe alienating someone else. I don't even bother to post anything on FB anymore.
cheshire23
Feb. 16th, 2017 10:08 pm (UTC)
It's not alienating someone who is on the opposite side of the issue, so much as it is alienating someone who says "okay that's nice, but we need to care about this other thing MORE!"

My thoughts have for a long time been: care about SOMETHING. You work on your things, I work on my things, and collectively we make the world a little less awful.
eternal_ot
Feb. 16th, 2017 12:43 pm (UTC)
The dialogues really helped in driving home your point. Great use of the prompt and I totally get where you are coming from.
cheshire23
Feb. 17th, 2017 01:32 am (UTC)
Thanks, glad you enjoyed!
baxaphobia
Feb. 16th, 2017 06:38 pm (UTC)
Here Here! I don't do this either. And it annoys me when my FB is flooded with everyone who does! Sigh.
cheshire23
Feb. 16th, 2017 10:07 pm (UTC)
Yes, especially when it's the "...I NEVER do this, really!" people. YOU JUST DID DO THIS. You know?
my_name_is_jenn
Feb. 16th, 2017 07:31 pm (UTC)
Social media is tough sometimes. Every post I see about Topic A has dozens of responses along the lines of "But what about topic B!?!?! Don't you care about Topic B!?!?!?" and as soon as Topic B is introduced, it's "Nobody cares about Topic C!!!!!"
cheshire23
Feb. 17th, 2017 01:33 am (UTC)
Oh, I know, it's so frustrating.
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